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Environment, Health, Nutrition,
Physical Requirements:
Family- or Relationship Problems:
Don't engage in mental training, if this
leads to trouble in your relationship or family.
If it becomes a matter of argument and you get the feeling that your
partner or a member of the family woud destroy an essential part of your life with his
negative attitude towards your work in the area of spirituality, it will not be possible
to avoid a discussion of the relationship as such and maybe a re-structuring of it.
Under such stress your mental training will not bring permanently good
results. Rather deal with your relationship! Maybe you might want to call us though so
that we can counsel you.
Training Space:
See that your
training sessions are taking place in a pleasant environment, with as few interruptions as
possible. If you can't switch off the telephone, maybe you have a room where you don't
hear it.
Nutrition and Sleep:
Take care of a diet that contains all
essential nutritients, and of sufficient sleep, for yourself as well as your training
partner.
A spiritual being whose body is in a bad condition, has a sub-conscious
problem with this body which pulls his attention away from the work on spiritual matters
(this is not only true for mental training!)
Alcohol and Medicine:
Alcohol and some medicines are also
factors which don't really enhance mental training. We recommend an interval of 24 hours
between the intake of alcohol or medicine (except permanent medication like for blood
pressure etc.) and the next training session.
Psychiatric Medication, Drugs:
Mind-altering drugs, marijuana and psychiatric medication
("uppers", "downers" etc.) we recommend to drop completely during the
work with mental training, as the effects of the training will probably overlap with the
effects of these substances, so that no precise work can be done anymore.
The possible permanent effects on your body - which is your most
important training tool after all - are another factor. Keep an interval of at least a
week, if you want to start with mental training and are using drugs right now. In this
case it also could be necessary to go through a de-toxification program.
Cigarettes, Cigars, Pipes:
Don't work in a space which is thick
with smoke. If you or your training partner (or both) are smokers, make some breaks and
smoke outside.
Working Mode:
Defining Words:
Generally - not only during mental training - we
recommend to define any words in your study materials that you don't know exactly, using a
dictionary. Of course you also can ask your training partner or a family member.
Frequent Repetitions:
The more
often you do these exercises, the more you will benefit from them. It is not only
important to work through single experiences in your past (shocks etc.) and win back the
life energy that is frozen into them, but also to permanently strengthen your presence in
everyday life and your spiritual reach.
In many cases this is a big change compared with the situation at the
start of the training, which can be successfully accomplished only by many repetitions
over a prolonged period of time.
How To Deal With Your Training Partner
Changing Roles:
You and your training partner alternate in the
roles of the student and the coach. It would only be fair to take care that each of you
gets approximately the same amount of practicing time.
Being Open:
If you are the student, it is of benefit for the
work to openly express everything which goes through your mind, and withhold nothing.
Especially negative thoughts or emotions like rage, fear, hopelessness or grief are signs
for the fact that old energy flows begin to move and you are experiencing progress at your
work.
Patience:
In such situations, your coach should
have enough patience to listen to you. He should allow for your
emotional changes and should encourage you to go through these difficult
phases. Only if you go through, will they finally dissolve and never
come back again. If you lose your courage and run away, the next
difficulty in life will trigger the same negative feelings again.
Mental Fitness:
Mental training is no "treatment", but
the fitness-training for the spirit. It is totally normal that a person at the start of
the training is much less fit than after a few weeks of regular work. A spiritual
"stiffness" in form of negative feelings is normal too. The longer and more
concentrated you work, the better you will finally feel.
Role of the Coach:
If you have the role of the coach, please
take care that you never discourage, accuse, offend or insult your training partner.
Especially if he tells you things for which he feels guilty, he totally depends on your
patience and understanding. As coach you are talking as little as possible. Just listen
and acknowledge, and ask the next question from the procedure which you are working
through.
Upsets and Discussions:
There
is no place in a training session for upsets and discussions (of course you will want to
quietly plan through your training session - nothing is wrong with that). If you just have
to discuss, terminate the session and discuss afterwards.
But in this case you also might want to work through the "Procedure
for the Cleaning of Relationships" with each other. For this it is best if always one
of you is the coach for a few minutes, then the other one, then the first one again, etc.
If you are doing this, strictly take care of the proper change of your
role: as the student you may and should say everything openly and express yourself
completely (including your anger about the coach or your critique of him) - but as the
coach you are unshakeably calm and never negative towards your
student. Practice this change of role if it is difficult for you to perform.
Evaluations:
As the coach, you also
have no right to an opinion about the ideas and viewpoints of the student. It is exactly
like the student says it is. You have enough time to express your opinions, when you have
changed the roles and your training partner is the coach.
Ending Exercises:
As the coach, terminate an exercise only when
it has brought a positive win for the student, and not before. Should you have missed the
right moment - no matter whether you notice this yourself or your student tells you about
it -, mention it briefly and terminate the exercise. Ask the student to direct his
attention at the moment again where he had his win.
Changing Training Partners:
If possible, work with a permanent
partner. Of course you shouldn't stop your training if your partner has to travel or is
unavailable for other reasons, but a stable partnership brings generally better results
than to train with somebody else every day.
Regret and Sympathy:
Expressions of sympathy are of a similar
benefit in mental training as in a fitness-center - which is, of no benefit at all. If
your partner in his role as a student complains that he feels bad, you help him more with
a calm encouragement than if you express regret for him. Training is never easy. It is a
matter of sensitivity to find the right amount of burdening which allows your partner to
develop his spiritual "muscles" without hurting himself.
Break-Downs:
Break-downs will also happen every now and then. If
you as the coach have the feeling that it really went wrong this time, that none of the
procedures in this booklet could help in any way, and that from our side there also was no
help possible, allow your student a few days of rest. During a period of 3 - 10 days he
will relax and calm down enough, so that you can take the matter up again and work through
it in sufficiently small portions.
Irrepairable Damages:
In mental training there is no such thing
- don't be afraid that you could cause your partner any irrepairable spiritual damage!
The mind has a safety mechanism which prevents something completely
unbearable from coming into sight. Memories or experiences which would spiritually destroy
your training partner will not be allowed by the mind - such memories stay sub-conscious
until systematic work has built up enough strength that they can be viewed bit by bit and
completely worked through.
This safety mechanism can not be short-cut during mental training in any
way. There exists no question and no exercise which could cause your partner any
irrepairable spiritual damage.
The only way to break through this safety mechanism is with the use of
mind-altering drugs (LSD etc.) - but even the effects of such a "horror-trip"
can be softened through patient work and resolved again after a certain time, as they too
are nothing else than products of the spiritual being's mental energy. For this reason it
is solely a question of spiritual strength, when and how they can be accessed and
dissolved again.
Sexual Relationships:
Mental training between marriage or life
partners, or persons who have a sexual relationship or are developing sexual feelings for
each other, can be touchy sometimes.
The role of the coach is not always fully compatible with the role in
the relationship. It is also possible that you in the role of the student hesitate to
fully open yourself to the coach, as it might be that you don't want to tell certain
thoughts to your sexual partner - be it because you don't want to hurt him, or for
different reasons.
If you don't feel too well doing mental training with a sexual partner,
better work with somebody with whom you don't have a sexual relationship.
In no case should you ever exploit the trust of a training partner by
coercing or forcing him or her into sexual activities. This would destroy the foundation
of trust which is needed for mental training, and also is beneath your dignity.
Keeping Secrets:
Don't ever under any circumstances reveal the
secrets which your student told you during a training session. In the Catholic Church
there have been priests who rather died than revealed the secrets of their confessees!
Lawyers, doctors and psychiatrists know this principle too.
Should this cause you any legal difficulties, because you for instance
have to testify in a court, try to present your session as a confessional, even if it was
no official confessional inside a church, or you don't even have any church membership.
Maybe the court accepts the idea of an emergency confessional, like the Church accepts the
idea of an emergency christening, and you can refer to the confidentiality of a
confessional.
It is one of the most important principles in mental training, that
mistakes and harmful acts can be confessed and viewed and analyzed in peace, without being
punished. Only if he can be completely certain about that, will your training partner dare
to deal with these already very painful experiences, and to question and upgrade his
personal ethics.
If you are not sure whether you can keep the secrets of your training
partner, better forgo the role of the coach. It is a good general guideline by the way, to
keep all things which you have learned about from your partner in a training session,
completely to yourself.
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